Are you recently engaged and seeking to decide who to ask to stand next to you and your husband on your special day?

I remember when it came down to choosing my bridal party, I did so with a bit of nervousness because while I knew who I wanted to be a part of it, I didn’t know which roles to give to whom. It wasn’t until around the time that I was thinking of getting my dress that I officially finalized who I wanted to be in the bridal party. However, after reflecting on our wedding planning experience, I realized three important things that I wanted to share with you, today.

So, if you’re looking for some things to consider as you decide, I have some tips for you!

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This is incredibly important when deciding who you would like to be in your bridal party. The temptation to choose people who aren’t close friends, but who you’ve hung around a lot is definitely real.

Personally speaking, one of the people I decided to make a part of the bridal party, I felt an obligation to do so because she kept throwing subtle hints of the things she wanted to and would do if I chose her. I didn’t want to have the awkward conversation of explaining that I wanted to choose someone else, so I included her. Later, it was revealed to me some of the things she did and said before and on the day of the wedding when I wasn’t watching that rubbed quite a few people the wrong way. It’s a decision that if I could do things over, I wouldn’t have done.

Therefore, if I could advise you in any way as you make this decision, I would really stick to your absolute best friends and/or family members. Choose people that you’ve known for a long time,  that genuinely have your best interests at heart, and are sincerely happy for you.


When it comes to bridal party proposals, there’s everything from boxes that include rings that look similar to an engagement ring to custom-made jewelry. If you want to ask your friends to be your bridesmaids in a creative way, go for it! However, don’t feel compelled to ask them because it seems like everyone else is doing it.

My sister in law asked me by writing me a card and I was honestly just as thrilled and as surprised as I would’ve been had she broke into my apartment and handed me balloons filled with confetti.

The people who you decide to ask will be excited to stand by you on your special day whether you propose to them or not!

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This was something I didn’t consider until after our wedding. Of course, we have to have bridesmaids and I would want them to be my closest friends, right? The truth is, although it is traditional to have a bridal party, you don’t actually have to have one.

A wedding will still be a wedding without having your best friends standing next to you in similar formal dresses. Your best friends will still be your best friends, even if you decide to opt out of having a bridal party. If you decide that having a bridal party isn’t your thing, don’t feel bad for deciding what’s best for you, your future spouse and your big day.

Personally, I loved having our friends beside us on our big day, even if some of those friendships have changed.

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Thank you to Mountain Gap Photography for making our day so special!

What are some tips that you have for choosing bridesmaids? How do you go about choosing bridesmaids for your wedding? If you’re single, who would you choose?

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