My mom used to say that our living spaces tend to reflect our lives because it’s impossible to be clear-headed when your space is so cluttered. As with many words of wisdoms and nibbles of knowledge that my mom has shared with me over the years, she’s right. I cannot function properly when our apartment is a hot mess, but candidly speaking, as a teacher it’s been harder and harder to find time to deep clean our apartment.

However, what about the other messes in our lives? You know – the days where we’re donning sweats all day instead of cute outfits or the days where our homes look like a tornado ran through it instead of an Instagram-worthy photo? If you’ve found yourself feeling bad about the messes in your life, I have some tips to help you embrace your mess more!


Embrace your imperfections more:

Most of you who have been reading my blog for a while have probably heard about my insecurities and why I feel awkward in front of the camera. I love taking photos, but the moment you ask me to be in front of the camera, I try to find the nearest thing to hide my face with.

However, it wasn’t until recently that I stopped shying away from being in front of the camera and started forcing myself to get in front of it. The motivation behind it was not only to understand what it’s like to be on the other side of it, but to become more confident. I wanted to learn to embrace my imperfections that I’ve grown to loathe for so long and I invite you to do the same!

Take a risk and step in front of the camera more often. You’re beautiful as you were made and the more that we grow to stop beating ourselves up for what we don’t like about ourselves, the more we begin to see the beauty that God has given us.

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Share quirky or imperfect moments on social media:

This is something that I’ve been trying to do more, because frankly speaking, I suck at it.

I don’t share many of imperfect moments on social media or interact with you much on my Insta-stories, because most of the time I’m a hot mess. 😂😂  There’s so many things that have happened recently that I wanted to be candid about on my Instastory, but I figured they were too dorky to share.

As much as I love to dress nicely for work, I’m not always donning makeup or rocking nice clothing. For example, there’s a Snapchat I recorded and never shared where I was sharing how Spirit Week was going at our school where my hair literally reflected my mood after day two. I thought about sharing it, but I was concerned that people would be so put off by it that I didn’t.

Exhibit A: Shoutout to filters, but look at my hair, y’all…

However, if I’m honest, some of my favorite people to follow are people who are so candid about their life – even the moments when things don’t go as planned. For example, one of my favorite bloggers that I follow is Christina from Hugs and Lattes. She’s so candid about both the joyous moments and the moments where a recipe didn’t go as planned and I love that about her! She doesn’t post things that are perfectly staged all of the time. It’s something I aspire to do more in this year and something I’d encourage you to do more as well!

Remember that what people share on social media is what they choose to share:

One thing I’m guilty of is seeing what people post online and assuming that’s how their life is. It’s especially hard when we’re going through a difficult time and we see someone sharing about a recent trip to Bora Bora. However, what we don’t see is some of the personal struggles that they’re wrestling with.

Don’t get so caught up in the happy and cheerful moments that everyone else is sharing that you begin to feel that you’re missing out (also known as FOMO). Sometimes life is hard and life is hard on all of us and essentially, we all have our imperfect moments – even if we don’t always share it on social media.

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What are some things that have helped you embrace the mess, lately?


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