Warning, this post is going to include all of the sap, sugar, and sweet. It’s a rarity on this space, but I thought that today warranted a post like this for such a special person, because it’s our two year anniversary.
Just like that, we’ve been married for two years and have known each other for almost six.
When I met my now husband, I honestly wasn’t looking to meet someone. Yes, I was “dating” if you can call it that, but I wasn’t really expecting to find anything. I was primarily looking for friends and if one of them happened to turn into something more – awesome. However, I was technically taking time off from dating seriously because I wanted to spend time really working on myself.
As cliche’ as this sounds, knowing my husband has truly made me a better person. I know everyone says that and I won’t pretend that being married doesn’t always bring out the ugliest parts of us, too, but I will say that I am in a much better space than I was before I knew him.
Today I’m sharing just a couple of the many ways that knowing my husband has been helping me become a better person.
He’s helped ignite my passions to help others:
My husband also enjoys helping others and fighting for against injustice, but he is WAY more vocal about it than I am. If you follow my husband on social media, you know what I’m talking about. He’s a lot more bold (in a respectful way) than I am when it comes to voicing my passions. Being with him has taught me that you cannot control the way people think or feel about you or your thoughts. At the end of the day, you have to be okay with what you put out there and if you are, it doesn’t matter how people react.
He’s taught me that I need to set boundaries:
I’m a people-pleaser at heart and it’s a struggle not to put others above myself all of the time. I won’t lie and say that it’s always a genuine sacrifice, but it’s something I do nonetheless and probably more often than I need to.
My husband has been a huge help in reminding and encouraging me to set boundaries not only for our marriage, but for myself. Some of the ways that he’s noticed that I had been treated in the past couple of years often stemmed from me not setting firm boundaries with people and being too accepting. He’s pushed me to not be afraid to say “no” to things and that it’s not unbiblical to do so – even for things that seem harmless.
He’s taught me that love is unconditional.
Relationships aren’t perfect. I remember listening to Will and Jada share some information about the struggles on their relationship and feeling comforted by the fact that even a couple as picture perfect as theirs, have had to fight for their relationship to work.
Don’t get me wrong, we are happily married, but we’re also sinful people. I am sure there are times when I really get on his nerves. However, he is quick to forgive and is just as caring – even when there’s disagreements.
He’s brought me closer to God.
As mentioned in a previous post, before my husband and I met, I was praying for someone who was a believer in God to help me grow closer to Him. It’s funny because I don’t think I had ever prayed that prayer before, but it’s something I really wanted in a partner. I believe God answered that prayer with my husband because knowing him has truly grown me in more ways than one. I now not only regularly attend church since we started dating, but I’ve been learning more about God’s character.
Ultimately, my husband is one of the sweetest souls that I know. He’s enriched my life in more ways than one and is such a blessing to know. I am so thankful for God placing such a wonderful man in my life. It hasn’t been the easiest couple of years for us, but there’s no one else I’d rather experience life with.
Who is someone you’re grateful for?