I’m twenty-eight years old, today.
It’s so weird saying that honestly, even though I think I’ve reached the age where I find myself second-guessing my age and having to remind myself how old I am.
Birthdays are both a blessing and an opportunity to reflect on the previous years. This past week, I have been doing a lot of reflecting about my style and how I define it.
I have never really liked the idea of placing myself inside of a box when it comes to labels. Sure there are some labels I willingly embrace, but when it comes to things like fashion, sometimes I feel that I don’t quite fit into one particular box because it changes by day.
Some days I’m wearing clothes that are very relaxed and casual, while other days I am wearing clothes that you can tell I put quite a bit of effort into.
When I was younger, I definitely would consider myself more of an edgy dresser. I still wore things that were pretty trendy at the time, but for the most part I did my own thing and in college wore a lot of graphic tees with flats and blazers.
Now that I am older, my style has changed quite a bit and I’ve found myself being drawn to things I wasn’t drawn too as much before.
I am drawn to styles that are characterized as being more preppy or classic styles than I used to be during middle school.
Oh and do you guys remember the “baby girl” graffiti t-shirts? I used to wear all of that (shivers in cringe).
In a lot of ways, I feel like I began seeing a shift in my style towards the end of college. When I started purchasing more items that I felt I could get a lot of wear out of, that I would wear both in and out of the classroom if I wanted to, and focuses less on wearing a ton of accessories at once. When I started focusing more on what made me feel good when I wore it and less on what was trending at the time or what the latest brand was that was popular amongst my peers.
In many ways as I have changed and grown as a person, so has my style into something that feels more refined and more me. While I still plan my outfits, for the most part I feel like I put less effort into my clothes and style it in a way that feels me and more natural. I don’t plan it based on a particular style perse and just wear what feels good to me.
Then it hit me that I don’t really have a set style. I like what I like and wear what makes me feel the most comfortable. However, if I had to describe my style or what inspires my wardrobe in few words, it would be the following four adjectives:
Classic, preppy, comfortable, and affordable.
Special emphasis on affordable.
I like to wear items that are classic in style, but affordable and comfortable in function. I don’t like to wear a whole lot of accessories and tend to stick to wearing either statement necklaces or statement earrings – not both.
I like items that I can wear knowing I didn’t have to break the bank for them and I like to feel comfortable in what I’m wearing.
I enjoy sticking to neutral and sometimes pastel color palettes when it comes to my wardrobe. I can’t remember the last time I wear a bright yellow dress or a top that isn’t something you’d commonly see up north.
I like items and styles that I know will last a long time.
I am inspired by pieces, landscapes, and brands that you would frequently find on the eastern coast where I grew up and currently live.
Even though these are the adjectives I feel fit my style the best, sometimes I wear things that if the figurative gatekeepers of the preppy community saw it they would probably look at and shake their head. There may even be people who look at my description as to how I define myself and disagree. That’s okay.
Some days I wear items where it is very clear that I put zero effort into what I wore for the day and that’s okay.
It’s just that items with these qualities and characteristics are what makes me ultimately feel the most confident, comfortable, and the most me.
Personally, the older I am getting the more I am learning that when it comes to style, it’s about what makes YOU feel comfortable. I personally don’t feel confident wearing low-rise jeans and I don’t feel that wearing super bright colors represents my personality, BUT if that’s something that makes you feel your best – go for it!
That’s the amazing thing about style. As much as society has a label for just about anything, you can wear what you feel great in and make it you.
Essentially, I feel that I found my defined style once I stopped caring about what other people thought of what I wore and focused on what felt more like me. It was then that I began to slowly come into what I feel is my true style and what I feel the best in.
How do you define your style?