This post is going to be a long one.
I almost deleted my blog and decided to stop blogging a couple of weeks ago.
I had a post in the draft folder where I shared my reasoning for it, but the more I began to think about my reasons for it, I started to realize that I needed to just take a weekend to think about it.
I thought about the main reason why I wanted to do it and it had nothing to do with my appreciation for writing and my enjoyment of it. It had everything to do with others and feeling like I was straying a bit away from why I started.
When I started blogging, my primary goal was to pretty much share what I wanted, to connect with others and to create a creative outlet where I could express my interests. I am so thankful for the ways this blog has allowed me to do so in ways I would have never imagined. I met amazing people and got to connect with different brands. However, I have been feeling for the past several months that something that I could not fully explain or figure out until now.
While I shared things I genuinely liked and enjoyed on this blog, I have struggled with some aspects – some that I’ll share with you, today.
Despite my attempts to keep my account hidden, over the last several months, I found out that a few people that had done hurtful things to me found it. I still don’t even know how my former students let alone those individuals found it considering I try not to use any identifying information on my accounts, do not have a number connected, created a separate email just for it, and have never used my full name. Like when I say, I did everything, I did pretty much everything. However, at the time when it happened, I took a deep breath, started slowly cutting back the amount of personal “girl chats” I wrote and just processed it on my own. Remember when I shared on Instagram quite a few months back that I would not be sharing any personal posts anymore on my account? That’s what sparked it and it was around the same time it happened.
Around the same time that I was thinking about this, I found a few posts from some people online body shaming this one blogger’s chest and mommy shaming another. While I think constructive criticism is fair, criticizing someone’s appearance and shaming their parenting style is really rude.
Although I do not have anything to hide and I was myself here, I tend to share personal posts about my experiences and struggles in hopes of encouraging others. I have always strived to be honest about my struggles because I wanted to encourage others going through the same thing to let them know they weren’t alone and that there is hope through it. I have created a space that’s so open, but I realized in moments like that that I realized just how open I had been and how much access I’d been giving to some people who were no longer out for my best interest to my thoughts and challenges. It was at that moment that I realized that maybe I am oversharing and need to take a step back because as much as I want to encourage others, not everyone has the best intentions with the content that’s shared. That’s their right, but I also had begun to realize that I have a choice in the matter of being more selective of what I decide to share as well.
Essentially I feel like while the answer isn’t to delete my blog, it is to change some things around and make some big changes that I have been avoiding. It means leaving some things out, circling back to why I enjoy blogging in the first place and starting to step back in little ways for the sake of my privacy and anxiety.
So, there a few things that are going to change here and other places where I’ve left my digital mark, that I will be sharing with you today.
HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
I will be posting less frequently: Instead of posting twice a week, I will be posting at most once a week. I will try to be consistent, but this time around, I want to focus more on the quality of what I’m sharing.
I will be changing my blog’s focus: Although I love and will miss sharing girl chat posts, I will instead use this blog to focus more on travel and lifestyle.
The lifestyle posts will focus more on tips as it pertains to things on a budget and intentional living. If God wills it for us to have children one day, I do not plan to share photographs of them here for the same reason why I do not share photographs of my nephew or baby cousin. You all are great, but some people do some insanely disgusting things with photographs of children.
The travel posts will be primarily locally based (inside of the U.S because we do most of our traveling in the states), but I may include some posts here and there about any potential world travels we are able to do them.
When I do share fashion-related posts, they will be shared if it’s related to travel and/or budgeting (i.e – what I wore as it pertains to travel/how you should dress for a fall trip in Cape Cod, favorite places to shop for winter clothes on a budget, etc). These will not be as often as they were before, however.
WHAT ABOUT THE NEWSLETTER AND WHAT ABOUT “GIRL CHATS?”
I will keep the newsletter because I have really loved and am really thankful for it and for all of you who subscribed. I don’t know anywhere else on the internet where I have been able to encourage and be encouraged in such a personal and intimate way. It’s something I have really been grateful for and plan to keep to share more personal life updates as I really hope to keep the connection I’ve built with you all there.
I will be saving my more personal, life update posts and blogs to my newsletter. If you are subscribed, you can expect to receive emails that are focused on what’s going on with me, inspirational/girl chat emails, and freebies as I am able to make them. These will still be 1-2x a month and will serve almost as its own separate space. Think old school blogging, but in an email newsletter format.
This newsletter will not be connected to this blog, however. I will eventually be adding a separate newsletter subscription strictly for “never miss a post” emails pertaining to this blog and removing the link to my current one, so if you’d like to stay updated on what’s specifically going on and receive more personal updates, you can sign up here before I remove it in the next week or so. After that, I will be replacing it with this blog’s “never miss a post” RSS.
WHAT’S HAPPENING TO YOUR IG?
I will be placing my current blog’s IG on private for the time being, archiving a few posts and potentially changing the name. I am hoping to keep it up, however, so I can continue interacting with your posts. I will also periodically my favorite photographs, since I really do enjoy sharing those things, but not as often as my personal one!
I will definitely be using my private IG, where I post and would love to keep in touch with you there as well! I will be sharing it on IG sometime in the next few weeks!
WHAT ABOUT YOUR TWITTER & PINTEREST ACCOUNT?
I will be keeping both, but I am considering changing my Twitter account to a new name as well. I like the idea of keeping it open, so I can engage in more conversation, but I will be removing the blog link from my bio.
I will have the Pinterest site up as another opportunity for you to keep in touch if you would like to see what I am pinning. I will be removing my blog board and removing myself from Pinterest boards that no longer apply to what I will be posting.
All of the name changes brings me to my next point in changes happening over the course of the next couple of months.
BLOG NAME CHANGE:
I will be changing up the name of my blog from C&B. This is probably one of the biggest decisions I have been avoiding when it comes to this blog, but it’s something I have been thinking about since I started blogging more consistently.
I have been thinking about this for a while and as much as I loved the quirkiness of my blog’s title, I think it’s worth it to try as I work on cutting things back.
I will be changing the name to A Cup of Kims. I will be transitioning into utilizing this space for that content, instead and getting rid of C&B altogether. I have an IG I created a few months ago for it just because, so I am planning on using that to post photos of the places we travel.
Sometimes my husband will share travel posts from his perspective, but it will probably be mostly me since I typically take most of the photos during our trips and do most of the backend planning.
C&B will continue to exist for a week or so, but starting the end of this week, I will be working on switching things over.
If you are still reading this post after all of the rambling and sharing about the changes to come, I want to say THANK YOU! I also just want to say thank you for being a reader. Whether you’ve stopped by for my travel posts or girl chats, it has been INCREDIBLE getting to speak with you, share with you, and grow in my soft skills in this space.
It was a hard decision to end C&B, because it has been a part of my life and has been my creative outlet through many seasons in my life. I have met SO many amazing people through blogging and the blogging community from this blog and I am thankful for all I’ve gotten to do through it. However, I believe it’s time for me to say goodbye to this blog and I have peace about the changes that are being made.
I will still be writing and blogging over at A Cup of Kims, which will be going live soon, but it will still feel different for a little while saying something other than C&B in my posts.
While technically this isn’t goodbye because I will still be writing, it is a goodbye to a blog I poured so much myself into in hopes of making way for something new that will continue my appreciation of the creative craft of blogging (but allow me to set some boundaries for where I share the most).
My inbox and DMs will always be open if you need someone to vent to or request prayer from. I hope to see you around A Cup of Kims, which will be viewable soon!